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Relationships
A breakup can be more than just painful—it can be traumatic. For some, the emotional aftermath mirrors symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This is often referred to as Post-Traumatic Relationship Syndrome (PTRS), a condition that can include intense grief, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and even flashbacks. In some cases, it may disrupt daily life or lead to feelings of hopelessness and suicidal ideation.
Understanding the Trauma of Breakups
Emotional Loss:
A breakup can feel like the death of a loved one. Grief, anger, and deep sadness are normal—and often overwhelming—responses.
Intrusive Memories:
Recurring thoughts, vivid dreams, and flashbacks about the relationship or the breakup can surface without warning.
PTSD-like Symptoms:
These may include emotional numbness, hypervigilance, trouble concentrating, or panic responses to triggers.
Relationship Trauma & Abuse:
If the relationship involved emotional or physical abuse, the breakup may be even more traumatic. Trauma bonds can form, making it harder to let go, even when leaving was necessary.
Reactivation of Past Trauma:
Breakups can stir up unresolved issues from earlier experiences, intensifying emotional distress.
Common Symptoms of a Traumatic Breakup
Emotional:
Grief, sadness, anger, anxiety, abandonment fears, and loss of self-worth.
Physical:
Fatigue, changes in appetite or sleep, and unexplained physical pain.
Behavioral:
Withdrawal, avoidance, emotional outbursts, or difficulty managing daily responsibilities.
Cognitive:
Intrusive thoughts, obsessive rumination, flashbacks, or trouble focusing.
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Steps Toward Healing
1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
Honour your emotions rather than suppressing them. Healing begins with acknowledgment.
2. Seek Support
You don’t have to go through this alone. Talk with trusted friends, family, or a qualified therapist.
3. Practice Self-Care
Prioritise sleep, nutrition, movement, and mindfulness. Small acts of self-kindness matter.
4. Break Trauma Bonds
If the relationship involved abuse or manipulation, breaking the trauma bond is essential. Professional support can help with this process.
5. Learn and Grow
Reflect on the relationship. Gaining insight can support emotional closure and future growth.
6. Reach Out for Professional Help
If your symptoms are intense or lasting, working with a therapist can help you rebuild safety, process the trauma, and develop healthy coping tools.
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You are not alone in this. Healing is possible—and it starts with recognizing that your pain is valid.